Comments on: “But It’s The Prom!”

By: Hannah

Hannah — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 15:04:20 +0000

I appreciate this. I’m about to be a senior, and I have been resisting “prom-pushers” ever since 7th grade. It’s so discouraging when you, as a teen in Christ, try to take a stand against dancing, only to hear your peers say, “Well, so-and-so from your youth group is going! They said there’s nothing wrong with it!” I don’t know if adults in the church realize how heartbreaking that is to us teens who are trying to abstain from that activity. It’s even more discouraging when ADULTS (even in the church) are encouraging us to “just go and sit with our friends and dress modestly.” Why should we go at all? So often, I find adult members of the church “letting the kids decide” if they want to go to prom, without presenting the dangers, temptations, and Scripture. It’s serious, and the majority of teens aren’t taking it that way.

When prom rolls around, those of us who choose not go go try to tell people why we don’t want to go, but I know none of us would deny the emotional exhaustion and heartbreak we experience as we fight against the tide.

By: Liz

Liz — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 18:45:48 +0000

Thanks a lot! I have been a youth director for over 10 years now but my children are just coming of high school age to where i have to “practice what i preach”. My church has been advising parents about not allowing their young people to attend proms. Most of them allow the young people to make the decision. I hate to see judgment day come when we will have to give account of what God has entrusted us with – his children!!!!

By: Michael Grooms

Michael Grooms — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 03:35:36 +0000

Thank you for a well written article on an often neglected subject. You are right on target. I have a sermon called “Dancing With the Devil” on my website which may interest you. Feel free to link if you wish.

By: Sherri

Sherri — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 19:19:49 +0000

Thank you. In a world that seems to be anything goes, even with some christians, I am glad to hear prom being talked about in a biblical way. I sometimes worry I am being to extreme when even my christian friends don’t seem too concerned about the things I am. As a mother I want to do what’s right with my kids. Not what the world thinks is right but what God thinks is right. Thanks again.

By: Bobby Thomas

Bobby Thomas — Sun, 17 May 2009 19:18:46 +0000

Thank you for clarifying, and your well wishes brother. The same to you. The written word is difficult to distinguish the intent of question or argument. If I “read into” my apologies. Romans 10: 15 And how shall they preach, except they be sent? as it is written, How beautiful are the feet of them that preach the gospel of peace, and bring glad tidings of good things!

By: Steve Higginbotham

Steve Higginbotham — Sun, 17 May 2009 00:20:24 +0000

Hi Bobby,
Thanks for your comment. I would simply clarify. I asked her a question, but did not make an accusation. In light of the nature of the article, I understood her comment to be a dismissal of all that I said with the “wave of her hand.” If I misunderstood her, I would be more than willing to apologize. But I think I understood her comment as she intended it, thus my response.

I wish you the best in your work at Arab.

By: Bobby Thomas

Bobby Thomas — Sat, 16 May 2009 19:21:01 +0000

Steve – I noticed a young lady mentioned above she loved dancing. You then asked if she was confessing the sin of dancing. In your article you state that dancing is not intrinsically wrong. Which is it?

By: Susan Story

Susan Story — Sun, 28 Dec 2008 13:24:52 +0000

I agree completely. There is a book on Project Gutenburg called “From the Ballroom to Hell” and the author’s last name is Faulkner. The book was written in the 1800′s and it describes how dancing corrupts innocent girls and how evil it is. It talks about “carriages” because it was in the days when they used horses, but now with cars and trucks I think it’s a lot more dangerous. It talks about how they gave the girl wine to get her drunk and then raped her, but the word they used was “took her virtue”. These days they have drugs and drinking alcohol seems to be more acceptable and commonplace. It also says in the book that an innocent girl would enter one of these dance schools, in many cases put there by well-meaning parents, and in 3 months was an inmate of a brothel.

It said it destroys the health and leads to prostitution. After the man took the girl’s virtue, he refused to marry her and she went from bad to worse. So the ballroom led to hell then and probably does now too.

There is also a sermon by Richard Baxter, a Puritan writer from the 1600′s about the Sin of Flesh-Pleasing, where he makes the point that if the activity is done solely for itself and doesn’t have at its goal to bring glory to God, that it is sin.

All of the things you described, I can’t see that any of it is bringing glory to God. What is so interesting is that you say that these were “Christians.” In some denominations, the people make a lot of noise, lifting up their hands and saying loudly, “Glory to God” “Hallelujah” Well!! It’d be kind of interesting if they would do the same thing on the dance floor as in church!!

By: Steve Higginbotham

Steve Higginbotham — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 14:18:06 +0000

Is that a confession? Friend, surely you know that love can be misplaced. You may recall that Demas loved the world (2 Timothy 4:10).

By: Kristian

Kristian — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 03:06:12 +0000

I LOVE dancing.